There are times when women try to out the blame on the failure of their realtionship on their partner, but the truth is it takes two people to ruin a relationship. Find out if you are a woman (or have a woman) that is doing these things that might ruin your relationship.
1. Give That Man His Space
It annoys me when I see a woman who is so far up her man’s anal plug that he is unable to have his own life, spend time with his friends or do anything that he enjoys without her presence or permission. A healthy relationship consists of two people who have their own lives but come together and enjoy that time together. Not a morphed spawn of two people who have been attached together by the hip. Let your man hang out with his boys. It will make him appreciate you more and he will think you are a cool girlfriend. It is also healthy that you have your own life as well. Spend time with your friends. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that now you should lose all sense of self.
2. No Love For The Constant Bossy Bitch
I am a very assertive woman by nature. I am a leader and I like to be in control. I know this about myself. I also know that most men are only receptive to this to a certain extent. At first he might dig your whole I am a Diva Beyonce/ I’m Bossy Kelis routine. However, after some time, the s**t is going to annoy him and it might push him into the arms of a seemingly less controlling woman. Relinquishing the control can be difficult for some women because men are usually less mature than us (in our opinions) and some women see them as being childlike in their behavior at times. No one wants to give a child a leadership role. Ladies, sometimes you are going to have to. Sometimes, it is okay to allow him to be the leader. As I stated before even I battle with this occasionally. I have had to learn to trust him to sometimes lead us and take control as well. Otherwise I could not be with him. If you are with someone who you could never see yourself trusting to lead for whatever reason then maybe he is not the right guy for you. Might be time for an upgrade. I’m just sayin’….
(sidenote: Not every man you encounter is worth you altering your personality for or growing internally for/with. Find out whether he is worth this type of effort and willing to do some growing for you as well. This way you will avoid your feelings of stupidity later)
3. Sometimes…. Shut The F*** Up
I know my sista girls. We like to be right. We like to give the old “I told yo’ a** so” line. We feed of the I’m a know it all tree. I’m here to tell you that sometimes ladies, you are going to have to sit down and shut the f**k up. Sometimes you being right is not worth pushing him away or elongating an argument. Not every argument is worth you putting your heart and soul into proving your point. It is okay for you let him have one. Like the old saying goes, pick you battles. This is true on so many levels and can crossover from your romantic life to your dealings in your professional life, friendships, family etc.. Sometimes silence and not nagging the s**t out of him is the best response.
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